The Road to Lifestyle

We are infinitely more capable than we give ourselves credit for. Yet, our eyes are often set on worry and fear.   It debilitates us, keeps us from moving forward.   It cripples us and robs us of our true destinies.   Per T. Harv Eker in an interview with Success magazine editor, Darren Hardy, "Your mind is nothing more than a survival mechanism; its job is not to make you happy; its job is not to make you successful; its job is to keep you alive." In short, we were designed to be cautious, fearful, and speculative. The beauty is:   we do not need to remain that way! We must simply remember that life is centered on the power of choice. We have the choice to be better today, than we were yesterday. When I worry, one of my favorite passages to refocus and gain strength is the “Do Not Worry” passage in the Bible (Matthew 6:25-34).   Here is an excerpt: Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or dr...

Have you ever considered the possibility that "the way we see the problem is the problem" as Stephen Covey discusses in his book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People ? When I was in elementary school I remember one particular exercise that had a tremendous impact on me and quite frankly, has shaped the way I view the world. I remember being given close up shots of photos to look at and I was asked to give my honest reaction to each one. One particular photo had a car parked in two parking spots; the car intersected the parking spots diagonally. My initial reaction was, "How rude! They are taking up two spots!" Next I was shown the same photo however instead of the close up of the car in the parking spots, I could now see the building that the car was sitting in front of. The sign on the building said "Emergency Room" and I was told that someone's wife was about to have a baby and they had just pulled up to the hospital. I was again asked for my rea...

According to Wikipedia , the term "lifestyle" was originally coined by Alfred Adler, an Austrian psychologist, in 1929. It is defined as the nuances--the attitudes, beliefs, habits, persona, economic level etc.--that constitute the mode of living for an individual or group. I buy that. Britannica Online Encyclopedia tells us, "Each person develops his personality and strives for perfection in his own particular way, in what Adler termed a style of life, or lifestyle. The individual’s lifestyle forms in early childhood and is partly determined by what particular inferiority affected him most deeply during his formative years." Man, I find that curious. Our lifestyle is "...partly determined by what particular inferiority affected [us] most deeply during [our] formative years?" OK... I buy that too. Because, admittedly, that's my reality (we'll get to that later) and in all likelihood, yours too. If you don't believe me just read T. Harv Eker...